In-law hell

WTF?! The appropriate start to my in-law drama. Numerous times I have told these people how much I do not "appreciate" them inviting my husband's ex to their family functions. Do they give a shit, No! I really don't get along with any of my in-laws because of their bullshit.

Let's see, my husband's first ex they still invite to everything. Come on - they dated when they were like 16 for a few years and she lived with them for awhile. But really....time to let go people. They hated her for so long for having an abortion but now for whatever reason, they just "love her" so much....or do they just hate me that much. I decided that - yet again - I am going to make the effort and do stuff with the family. My sister-in-law is having a fundraiser for some biking shit she does and I honest to God was going to go. I thought about buying tickets on Friday when I cash my check but guess what? On Facebook, she invites her to go and says please can you make it. Do you think she asked me, please can you make it...no. How am I suppose to "love" these people when they put his ex before me. Like I said...WTF?

Let's top things off and talk about his other ex, Baby Mama! After she took his kid from him for 3 months, had him waste thousands on custody hearings and put a restraining order on him - they are all freaking friends. Oh the Facebook comments just kill me. I actually have to laugh at how cordial they all are to each other. I really can't get started on this subject because I think they are all a bunch of assholes. Yes, the fulgarity is terrible but this is not a good subject for me.

Does it ever end?

When the trust is gone....

Oh what a day we had yesterday. Things were pretty hectic to say the least....I picked the children up from school yesterday and on the car ride home my step-daughter divulged the drama of the days events. Our friend's son had been being picked on at school as was telling everyone he had money which in turn led to the kids wanting to beat him up and take it. When I got home I decided to call our friend and let him know what was going on. As the night drew nearer and my friend and I continued talking about it, it came to light that my step-daughter was the one who told everyone and that she had lied about the whole situation. Now, I say to her, why in God's name would you not only lie about something like that but voluntarily tell me the lie knowing I was going to tell the child's father. She has no idea? Eventually, she has led herself to believe that I misunderstood her and that she never even told me the things she had said. I tried to explain that when you lie so much you forget what you said. Well, we got no where pretty quickly and to be honest I give up sometimes because I know that when her father gets home he will make every excuse for her. Instead of saying, my kid is wrong and deal with it. He always makes excuses for her and I believe it kinda has something to do with why she is the way she is. Sure she has great grades but there is so much more to life. She is going to have a very hard time when she gets in the real world and he isn't there everyday to give her excuses. Oh well, drama for the day over and the end result will be to have her apologize to both the boy and the father.

I am wondering if this is why she has "no friends" in school. I know she has a few but it seems that she is always having a problem with someone. I know that she doesn't realize the things that she tells me I use to draw conclusions on the problems that she has. Such as, her best-friend and her aren't such best-friends anymore. The girl doesn't like to hang out with her and I believe it is because my step-daughter tries so hard to get attention that it drives people crazy. She is constantly "flirting" with her friend's boyfriend. I know she doesn't realize it but mixing his food together at lunch, poking, throwing things at him, etc... all the things that kids do to flirt and I'm sure her friend doesn't like it. She is also always hitting all the boys and being mean to them (stuff we used to do in elementary school, not middle school). I don't know how much more attention we can give the child to make her feel loved. Her dad and I are constantly praising her, I always help with her homework and projects, she spends quality alone time with her dad on weekends.

Would I feel the same way if it were my child? Would I make excuses as well? Would I say it's just a kid being a kid? I don't think I would. Well, a few more days and then I get a break for a week.....sometimes I enjoy it!

Let's See What Happens!

Do you ever have one of those days where you just don't feel like doing anything? I mean, not only is your plate full, it's overflowing and you say....where the hell do I begin?! I have been procrastinating all morning between Facebook and AOL news. What do I want to do first? I need to get my bank account reconciled, get my stuff ready for mediation on Thursday, do some laundry, clean up the kitchen and figure out which bills are due- but really - I just don't feel like it.

As I sit hear and listen to the phone constantly ring with the same creditors that call 20 times a day I think to myself...should I answer and tell them that I moved or possibly even died...LOL Probably won't work. Okay so I am a month late on a few bills - give me a break! Could be worse!! I decided that I should do something for my daughter's birthday instead of paying these few bills. I mean how often does your baby turn 2? Speaking of her birthday, I am going to attempt a cake made out of fondant...again. My last one that I made for my sister-in-law turned out like shit. In my head it was so beautiful so this time, I am going to buy the fondant and hopefully make a nice cake.

I really need to make two cakes because my step-daughter turns 12 in 2 weeks. I can't believe that she was only 5 when I got with my husband. She has been living with us full-time for the last 3 or 4 years when her mom decided that it would be better if she moved away. She found a man and thought that she would be happier 2 states away. What the hell kind of parent moves away from their child and says to themselves...it's okay. I mean really, what must you tell yourself every night in order to sleep peacefully. Oh did I forget to mention that her husband has 3 kids that they just fought and got custody of....what a messed up world we live in. Oh well, she is better off with us anyway. I love her to pieces and wouldn't dream of her being anywhere else. Sure we have our differences but she is also almost a teenager - which I have to keep reminding myself.

Ooh! I almost forgot about lunch....my dilemma, go to Benihana with my hubby for lunch with no kids and enjoy some much needed adult time or eat healthy and get on the treadmill? 2 kids and 7 years ago this would have been an easy....jump on the treadmill and get your ass in shape kind of decision but today I think I will enjoy my coffee with extra cream and 4 sugars and hit lunch with the hubby. I mean, really....he loves me big(ger) or small.